What to do if the child goes to bed late. How the wrong regimen affects the fragile children's body

12.10.2019 -

Does your child go to bed late? And all attempts to style it earlier just increase the time it takes to style? It also happens that the child went to bed at 23 pm, falling asleep on the floor with toys? Does it happen that the baby only wakes up at 19 o’clock after a daytime sleep, and even after 2-3 hours no one can put him to sleep in any way? In such a situation, our article will help to understand.

Why does the baby fall asleep too late in the evening or deep at night?

There can be several reasons for falling asleep late:

Very long daytime sleep.

Calculate how much your baby gets in the amount of daytime sleep, try to compare with sleep norms. Analyze if the child has too much daytime sleep? Because it is very important for a quality night's sleep. The baby can get enough sleep during the day, respectively, in the evening he is not ready to go to bed so early. What to do? It can be recommended to wake up a little sleepyhead if the daytime sleep is delayed. Or remove excess daytime sleep if it interferes with nighttime sleep.

The time of wakefulness before a night sleep is very long.

In case of too long wakefulness, the baby overworks, the body produces, which acts so invigoratingly on the child that it can be compared with a cup of strong coffee. But under the influence of cortisol, the quality of sleep suffers, because it is very poorly excreted from the body, and as a result, mom watches frequent awakenings at night, early rise, and signs of lack of sleep. Our grandmothers called the action of the stress hormone homely and familiar with the word "overdone". In such a situation, it is important: to monitor the child, to prevent overwork, to put the baby to sleep.

Excited before sleep.

Stormy emotions from bright events, guests, new toys, of course, take the child away from the relaxed state that he needs before going to bed. Try to exclude such events before going to bed, let the baby get a boost of positive emotions from the long-awaited toy in the morning. The children's psyche is not yet so perfect, so adults help to calm it down: in the evening, through calm activities and games, gently move on to bedtime and sleep.

Parental lifestyle.

Adults do not like the regime, they often neglect their sleep, and therefore they themselves go to bed late and put their baby to bed late in the evening or late at night. If you are faced with the fact that the baby began to sleep very badly, then it's time to make sleep a priority for the whole family. The mode for the child is familiar, predictable, and therefore is associated with safety. Help your child get used to the routine. Remember that first of all, through our example, we teach the child - take care of your sleep, go to bed early!

The kid is waiting for mom or dad from work.

Sometimes it happens. Of course, communication with loved ones - important factor harmonious development and formation of a healthy attachment between parent and child. Therefore, here you need to be flexible and consider options: invite the child to meet dad only on Tuesdays and Thursdays, tell dad “ Good night” via Skype video, or get up early in the morning to “talk” with your loved ones!

If the child falls asleep too late at night?

To solve the problem of going to bed too late, it is important to figure out how suitable this mode is for the child?

If you are satisfied with how your baby sleeps at night and during the day. If the baby, even with a late regimen, gets his own, feels great and is active enough for his age, falls asleep and wakes up at good mood, does not demonstrate , and the late mode fits into your family concept - congratulations, you are doing well! No need to look for a problem where there is none!

But if you have to make a lot of effort and time to put to bed, sometimes even up to 2 hours ... If you need to persuade the child, rock him to sleep, read 10 fairy tales, connect all the relatives ... If you are exhausted and tired, fall asleep yourself, and the baby is still fiddling with toys or jumping around the apartment. If, after two hours of bedtime, he still falls asleep, but wakes up screaming several times in the middle of the night ... If in the morning, despite everything, he wakes up too early or by dinner, throws tantrums all day, protests against daytime sleep, while physical activity decreased, appetite became worse ... Evening comes and again he went to bed by midnight. If you recognize your situation in this description, know that you are not alone. And think about it, maybe it's time to try switching to early mode.

What is "early mode"?

When exactly should your baby sleep at 7:35 pm or 8:15 pm? In fact, the intervals for laying are quite wide in 1.5 hour increments, because our recommendations take into account age and individual characteristics. All children are different and each child is special, with its own rhythm of sleep and wakefulness. To build this rhythm comfortably for the baby, parents need to be attentive and patient, observe signs of readiness for sleep, find the golden "window of sleep" and gradually switch to a new mode.

The child goes to bed too late, not because he is harmful and capricious, but because it is you who allow him to do this.

The fact that the child goes to bed too late is not good either for the parents or for the baby. And no arguments and justifications in terms of “laying a fidget is still that trouble” will be inappropriate here. Be that as it may, but timely rest and sleep for a growing little man is the key to almost everything: mental development, mental and physical health. Life according to the regime, no matter how strictly this phrase sounds, is the most true and the right option if we, loving parents, want to raise disciplined, collected and attentive people from our children.

At one time I happened to observe how a young couple lives with a small three-year-old child. Patience to hear how the baby cries, screams, knocks after 12 at night, or even later, I had enough for a while. On one of these noisy nights, I nevertheless decided to go up to the floor above and ask why their child is still not sleeping? A young girl (of good appearance) began to apologize to me for the inconvenience caused and explained that she could not put her son to bed in any way, and that she would try to calm him down right away (and calmed down, by the way). To be honest, my indignation was not caused by the fact that they inconvenience me, but by the fact that parents, it turns out, absolutely do not feel sorry for their baby. Of course, I understand that anything can happen, but if a child goes to bed too late every time, then what is he like in the morning? After all Kindergarten And no one has canceled the job yet? And in this situation, it is quite obvious why the mother has such problems with the baby. He lives the way he wants, no regime, it is he who dictates the conditions and sets the rules. And just try to go against them: tears, whims and screams.

And now, dear parents, let's take a closer look at why it is highly undesirable for a child to go to bed too late.

Negative points:

Obvious health hazard
Here we must consider both physical and mental condition health. All of us, adults, know how it is to wake up in the morning, when it seems that we fell asleep just recently. They didn’t rest at all, they didn’t gain strength, thoughts are confused. But we have already grown up, and we have nowhere to go. With children, the situation is completely different - their small body is still growing and developing. Lack of sleep for him is like lack of food and air. Due to excessive and prolonged activity, there is a huge load on the spine and the entire skeletal system, because the baby is on his feet all day and evening. Immunity weakens, mental activity of the brain decreases, and attention becomes even more unstable. Moreover, the child becomes irritable, capricious, can be both hyperactive and overly calm, or rather, detached from reality. It is almost impossible to lay some basics of various skills and abilities in such a “broken” baby. In addition, it should be remembered that it is at the age of 3 that a child is actively developing speech, which means that his head should be clear and his body rested.

In the case of regular lack of sleep, the baby may have big problems with discipline and composure. But these qualities will be necessary for the child when he goes to school. And in favor of the regime here, one can cite the fact that those children who do homework at the same time become excellent students faster than others.

Disadvantages for parents
When parents put their child to bed late and as they have to, they cannot even roughly make their plans for the evening. But they also need to relax and spend time for their pleasure. And, as a rule, they have to lull the baby through persuasion, whims and the like. In a word, there is little pleasant here. What to do with a fidget and how to put it on time?

Only for those parents who have not taught the child to go to bed at certain hours, getting ready for bed is a real hard labor. But believe me, everything can be (and is!) completely different. You just need to make an effort and develop a clear regimen, no “just a little more” or “okay, play some more”. If you need to sleep at 20.00, then at 20.00. Over time, the child's "internal clock" will "adjust" and he will fall asleep literally in a matter of minutes. The main thing is to steadfastly survive all his tantrums, if before that he fell asleep when he wanted, and not follow his lead. But, forceful methods cannot be used here in any way. The kid needs to be taught cunning.

Here are some tips that should help:

- if bedtime is approaching, try to protect the child from mobile and emotional games, entertainment

- leave all household chores, telephone conversations and a computer (and even guests will wait if they drop in on you)

- come up with interesting shape holding all evening water procedures

- read books and tell stories, talk to your baby before bed

- if there is some event coming up tomorrow (buying a toy, going to the zoo, for example), play the situation so that the child wants to fall asleep faster

- remove all distracting details from the nursery (luminous, musical objects, TV, etc.)

- buy nice pajamas, bedding and use them as an enticing device too

And remember, the child goes to bed too late, not because he is harmful and capricious, but because it is you who allow him to do so. And then, which often happens, you also punish for such disobedience. But he, in fact, is not to blame for anything.

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Paradoxical situation: the child has no problems with sleep. Parents in general and mother in particular are quite satisfied with such a regime - i.e. it is both convenient and quite expedient for the normal existence of your family. However, this absolutely (!) normal situation is worrying only because "... I know that children should go to sleep no later than 9 pm, supposedly the healthiest sleep is until 12 am. "I am very glad that you used the word" allegedly ". This makes me think that a certain element of skepticism is clearly present in the assessment of this phrase. So "What you know is not right. It was invented by adults in order to put the schoolboy in bed in time and take a break from him. There is no need to change anything. And I can only congratulate you on the described situation.

What to do if the child goes to bed late. How the wrong regimen affects the fragile children's body

Why does the baby fall asleep too late in the evening or deep at night?

If the child falls asleep too late at night?

What is "early mode"?

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