Plan for holding a parent meeting. Techniques for a successful parent-teacher conference

Memo

holding parent meetings

PARENT MEETING - This is the main form of joint work with parents. Here, decisions are discussed and made on the most important issues the life of the classroom community and the education of students at school and at home. Its main purpose is the coordination, coordination and integration of the efforts of the school and family in creating conditions for the development of a spiritually rich, morally pure and physically healthy child’s personality.

Often, parent meetings are used to improve the pedagogical culture of parents, their role, responsibility and activity in the life of the class.

Class parent meetings are usually held once every quarter, but can be held more often if necessary. Its effectiveness largely depends on the focus, thoughtfulness and thoroughness of the preparatory work of the teacher and members of the parent committee. The main elements of preparing a parent meeting include the following:

choosing a meeting topic; setting goals parent meeting; study by the class teacher and other organizers of the collection of scientific and methodological literature on the problem under consideration; conducting micro-studies in the community of children and parents; determining the type, form and stages of the parent meeting, methods and techniques for the collaboration of its participants; inviting parents and other meeting participants; development of the meeting’s decision, its recommendations, and instructions to parents; equipment and design of the venue for parent meetings.

RULES FOR PREPARING PARENT MEETINGS

RULE 1. The topic of the parent meeting must be relevant to parents.

RULE 2. Parent-teacher meetings must be held at a time convenient for parents.

RULE 3. The plan for holding a parent meeting must be known to parents.

RULE 4. Communication class teacher and parents should be tactful and self-possessed.

RULE 5. The parent meeting should not label.

RULE 6. The parent meeting should be pedagogically useful and well prepared.

ADVICE FROM PSYCHOLOGISTS:

Before starting a meeting, it’s best to leave your bad mood at the door;

Allow no more than 1.5 hours for the meeting;

The most pleasant sound for a person is his name: put in front of you a list with the names and patronymics of your parents;

Before the start of the parent meeting, announce the issues you plan to discuss;

Do not forget " Golden Rule" pedagogical analysis: start with the positive, then talk about the negative, end the conversation with suggestions for the future;

Warn parents that not all information may be shared with children;

Thank everyone who took the time to come (especially fathers);

Make it clear to parents that you understand well how difficult it is for a child to study;

In a personal conversation, evaluate the children’s progress relative to their potential;

Let your parents know that " bad student" does not mean "bad person";

The parent should leave the meeting feeling that they can help their child.

NOT WORTH:

O condemn present parents for failure to attend previous meetings;

O compare the progress of individual students;

O give negative feedback to the whole class;

O overestimate the importance of individual items;

O use an edifying tone when communicating with parents.

And once again - be extremely correct and tactful!

Topics of parent meetings and their short description

To help the teacher, we offer several topics for parent meetings, with teaching materials and recommendations.

Topic: "Interaction and mutual understanding between school and family"

Meeting plan.
1. My childhood school (parents’ memories of their school). Sharing memories.
2. Brainstorming. School through the eyes of parents.
3. My dream school. Analysis of schoolchildren's essays and science fiction projects.
4. Determining the requirements of the family for the school and the school for the family in the upbringing and education of children.
5. Organization of children's leisure time. On holding joint holidays, competitions, competitions and other events for children and their families.

students write an essay “What does school mean to me”;

fantastic projects are being developed by groups of schoolchildren “My Dream School”;

an exhibition of projects is organized and the most striking fragments of schoolchildren’s essays are highlighted;

a special exhibition of children’s crafts, their works, and photographs from the life of the class is being prepared;

brainstorming questions and preparing small strips of paper for answers;

A draft of family requirements for the school and school for the family is developed, which is discussed in advance with individual parents or the class parent committee.

Questions for brainstorming:
1. What was your child’s most memorable school event?
2. What needs to be changed at school in relation to your child?
3. What generally needs to be changed in a modern school?
4. What are you most dissatisfied with about the school?
5. What needs to be done to make the school meet your requirements?
6. What kind of school would you like for your child?
7. How can you personally positively influence the situation at school?
8. Your suggestions to the teachers who teach your child.
9. Your suggestions to the school management.
10. Your suggestions to the local administration.

Project "Main directions of interaction between school and family"

1. We look for and find positive things in the family and at school and support them in every possible way.
2. We take part in class activities.
3. We come to school on our own initiative, and not at the invitation of the teacher.
4. We take an interest in the affairs of our child and his friends at school and in his class.
5. We communicate with the parents of our class not only at parent-teacher meetings, but also during various events with the children of the class.
6. We show initiative and make proposals for interesting activities with children and for children.
7. The teacher is a friend of our child and family.

Methodology, techniques, technique

Parents sharing memories

Brainstorm.

1. Read the first question. Parents answer it in writing on a strip of paper.
2. The answer to each question is written down on a separate strip, and all answers are numbered.
3. After completing answers to all questions, parents are divided into groups according to the number of questions. The first group collects all the answers to the first question and systematizes them. All other groups do the same.
4. After completing the systematization, the first group reads out the question and opinion obtained during the generalization. All other groups do the same.
5. Thus, all the brainstorming issues are discussed.

School of my dream. The authors of the project (class students) talk about what they would like the school of the future to look like. The teacher or parents of these children can talk about the school of the future on their behalf. In any case, children's projects should be discussed and not ignored.

Topic: "A child learns from what he sees in his home"

The form of the meeting is "round table"

Meeting plan.
1. introduction teachers.
2. Analysis of parents' questionnaires.
3. Analysis of schoolchildren's questionnaires.
4. Free discussion on the questions: “What does home mean to a person? What do people especially value in their home? We, our children and our home. Communication and leisure with children. Family traditions and holidays.”
5. Exchange of experience in holding family holidays.

Preparing for the parent meeting:

questionnaires are being developed for students and parents on the topic of parent-teacher meetings;

the form of inviting parents to a parent-teacher meeting is being thought through (a competition among schoolchildren for the best invitation);

an exhibition of family albums and photographs on the theme “Our Family Holidays” is being prepared;

proverbs and sayings about a close-knit family and its influence on education are selected for classroom decoration;

musical accompaniment when viewing the exhibition is being thought through.

Materials for the meeting

Questionnaire for parents
1. Are you happy with your children?
2. Is there mutual understanding between you and the children?
3. Do your child’s friends visit you at home?
4. Do your children help you with household and household chores?
5. Do you discuss books you have read with your children?
6. Do you and your children discuss the TV shows and movies you have watched?
7. Do you take part in walks and hikes with your children?
8. Do you spend holidays with your children?
9. How much time do you spend with your child every day?
10. What was your child's most memorable family event?

Questionnaire for schoolchildren
1. Are you satisfied with your parents?
2. Do you have mutual understanding with your parents?
3. Do your friends visit you at home?
4. Do you help your parents with household and household chores?
5. Do you discuss the books you read with your parents?
6. Do you discuss TV shows and movies you have watched with your parents?
7. How often do you go for walks with your parents?
8. Were you and your parents together during their vacation?
9. How much time do you communicate with your parents every day?
10. What family event (holiday) do you especially remember?

Commandments for parents

Treat your child as an individual.

Don't humiliate your child.

Don't moralize.

Don't extort promises.

Don't indulge.

Know how to listen and hear.

Be strict with children.

Be fair to your children.

The most common mistakes parents make in raising children:

parents' inability to take into account age-related changes in the child's psyche;

restriction of activity and independence of a teenager in an authoritarian form;

avoiding contact with children to avoid conflict;

coercion when presenting demands instead of explaining the need to fulfill them;

the belief that punishment brings benefit and not harm;

lack of understanding of children's needs;

ignoring the child’s personal interests;

prohibiting the child from doing what he loves;

intolerance of parents towards differences in the temperaments of their children;

the conviction that everything is laid down by nature and that the home environment does not affect the upbringing of the child;

thoughtless satisfaction of children's needs complete absence ideas about the price of labor;

absorption only in the world of “earthly” needs.

Need to remember:

Questioning of schoolchildren is carried out in class, and anonymously. No surnames are named so as not to create conflict situations in the family;

parents fill out questionnaires at home, and the teacher collects them a week before the meeting to make analysis and synthesis;

based on the data from the questionnaires of parents and schoolchildren, the common and distinctive features in each age group are identified;

the placement of emphasis must be correct, which will allow parents to be called to a frank conversation during the round table, otherwise the discussion will not work.

Topic: "Cultivating hard work in the family. How to raise an assistant?"

Meeting plan.

1. A tour of the exhibition of children's (family) crafts and familiarization with fragments of schoolchildren's essays.
2. Teacher’s conversation about the importance of work in the family.
3. Analysis of questionnaires of parents and schoolchildren.
4. Free discussion on the topic “Labor traditions and labor education in the family.”
5. Acceptance of recommendations.

Preparing for the parent meeting:

schoolchildren prepare crafts for the exhibition;

A survey of parents and schoolchildren is carried out, the materials from the questionnaires are summarized;

the form of invitation to the parent meeting is determined;

questions for discussion are thought through;

Students write an essay on the topic “The World of Family Hobbies”; individual fragments from the essays or full texts are selected.

Materials for the meeting

Questionnaire for parents
1. Does the child have work responsibilities in the family?
2. How does he feel about fulfilling his duties?
3. Do you reward your child for doing their responsibilities?
4. Do you punish your child if he does not fulfill his duties?
5. Do you involve your child in joint work?
6. Are there any disagreements in the family regarding labor education?
7. What kind of work do you consider preferable for your child?

Questionnaire for schoolchildren
1. Do you have a permanent responsibility in the family? Which?
2. Are you willing to do it?
3. Do your parents punish you if you don’t fulfill your responsibilities?
4. Do you often do any work with your parents?
5. Do you like working with your parents? Why?
6. Which of your parents’ professions would you like to learn in the future?

How to make comments - recommendations for parents
Before reprimanding your child, try to answer the following questions:
1. What condition am I in?
2. What will my remark give to the child and me?
3. Is there enough time to not only scold, but also explain why you can’t do or act this way?
4. Will it sound like “Yeah, gotcha!”?
5. Will you have enough patience and endurance to complete the task?
If you cannot answer all the questions, then do not make a comment.

Rules of family pedagogy

Never allow yourself to let yourself go, grumble, swear, or scold each other and your child.

Forget the bad things right away. Always remember the good.

Emphasize the good behavior of children and loved ones, their successes, actively support the child’s desire to become better. Try not to put bad things at the center of your education.

Nurture on the positive, involve children in useful activities.

Don’t let your child show bad behavior, say more often: “This is not how adults behave!”, “I couldn’t expect this from you!”

Do not scold, but show the child what harm he causes to himself and others with his negative behavior and bad deeds.

Talk to your child like an adult: seriously, respectfully, deeply motivated.

Methodology, communication techniques

Free discussion takes place more productively at a round table. Questions for discussion are thought out in advance; they should not require clear answers. Questions like “Do you think labor education is important?” are called closed. Such a question will not cause discussion. For a discussion, the question can be formulated something like this: “What kind of family work do you consider feasible (necessary) for your child?” Questions that can have multiple answers are called open questions. Open questions are important for discussion, so that different points views on the issue under discussion. For example: “Is work a necessity or an obligation?”

Topic: "Reward and Punishment"

Meeting plan.

1. Pedagogical situations from the life of the class.
2. The teacher’s message about the importance of reward and punishment methods in raising children.
3. Discussion and analysis of pedagogical situations.
4. Conversation on the questionnaire.
5. Talk about incentives.
6. Summing up.

Preparing for the meeting:

think over the form of inviting parents to the meeting;

arrange tables in the classroom in a circle;

write an epigraph on the board: “When we punish a child, we do not complicate his life, but make it easier, we take the choice upon ourselves. We free his conscience from the need to choose and bear responsibility...” (S. Soloveichik);

prepare an exhibition of books about education with punishment and reward;

develop a questionnaire for parents and conduct a survey about a week before the meeting;

think through the course of the conversation about rewards and punishments in the family, based on data from parents’ questionnaires.

Materials for the meeting

Questionnaire for parents
1. What educational methods do you use most often? (Demand, persuasion, punishment, encouragement)
2. Is the unity of requirements for the child observed in your family? (Yes, no, sometimes)
3. What types of encouragement do you use in parenting? (Praise, approval, gifts)
4. Do you physically punish your child? (Yes, no, sometimes)
5. Does the chosen punishment have a positive effect on the child? (Yes, no, sometimes)
6. Does your child trust you and share his secrets with you? (Yes, no, sometimes)
7. Do you try to control your own behavior for the sake of raising your child? (Yes, no, sometimes)

Questions for conversation
1. What is the role of encouragement in raising children?
2. What types of incentives do you use?
3. What place does encouragement occupy in the moral development of a child?
4. Is it necessary to encourage and praise children?
5. How do you feel about punishing children?
6. Does punishment prevent unwanted behavior?
7. How do you feel about physical punishment?
8. Is there a connection between punishment and the formation of undesirable character traits in a child?
9. How does your child react to physical punishment?
10. What is the significance of the unity of parents’ demands in rewarding and punishing children?
11. What can you say about reward and punishment in the words of folk wisdom? Is this always true?

Topic: "School grade: pros and cons"

Meeting plan.

1. Let's remember our first mark. What did it cause: joy, grief? Why did this memory persist?
2. Law “On Education” (articles on school education and about the rights and responsibilities of parents).
3. State educational standard in teaching schoolchildren and school grades.
4. Regulatory requirements for assessing the knowledge, skills and abilities of schoolchildren in various academic subjects.
5. School mark: encouragement and punishment.
6. Summing up the meeting.

Preparing for the parent meeting:

articles are written out from the Law “On Education” on school education and on the rights and responsibilities of parents;

materials of the State educational standard for parents are printed;

grade requirements for individual subjects that cause FAQ parents;

the form of inviting parents to this meeting is being thought out;

Instructions for parents are compiled and distributed.

Materials for holding a parent meeting

How to treat your child's mark.

Remember that this is your child, and the mark he receives is your mark. How would you treat yourself in this case?

A bad mark is always a punishment. Don’t scold or punish your child, he’s already feeling bad. Think together about what needs to be done, how to change the situation, how to help. little man in solving his problem. You have already gone through this, everything is clear to you, but these are his first steps. Don't complicate his path.

Children often get distracted when completing tasks. It is the fault of the adults that they have not taught the child to focus on the task and are constantly tugging and distracting. Try to patiently teach your child not to be distracted while completing a task. Work with the clock: first 5 minutes, and then each time 1-2 minutes more.

Clearly define the time when to study lessons, when to play, when to do homework. This will help the child get tired less and be able to do everything.

Teach your child to learn. This means not only completing the task, but also monitoring yourself and the correctness of execution. Let the child learn on his own, without reminders or prodding. This will be your main learning achievement.

Teach your child to love books. This will help him learn further on his own and successfully master knowledge.

Teach your child to critically evaluate himself and his actions (look at himself from the outside), and not just criticize his classmates and teachers.

Help and encourage.

Memo for parents of first-graders.
1. Only together with the school can you achieve the desired results in the upbringing and education of children. The teacher is the first ally and friend of your family.
2. Be sure to attend all parent classes and meetings.
3. Take an interest in your child’s academic progress every day, asking what he learned new, what he learned, and not just what he received.
4. Regularly monitor your child’s homework, help sometimes if the child has difficulty, but do not do the work for him.
5. Expand the child’s knowledge and skills, awaken interest in learning with additional entertaining information on the problem being studied.
6. Encourage your child to participate in all curricular and extracurricular activities.
7. Try to listen to the child’s stories about himself, about school, about his friends, live in the interests of your child.
8. Try to provide all possible assistance to the school and teacher. This will have a beneficial effect on your child and will help you master the art of parenting.

Plan for conversation with parents
1. What incentives can there be for a good grade?
2. What incentives are most effective for students in our class.
3. Punishment for bad grades. Positive and negative points punishments.
4. The influence of punishment on the attitude of schoolchildren to learning.

Methodology for conducting conversations and discussions

When discussing State educational standards It is necessary to invite subject teachers or the head teacher of the school to clarify difficult points, since this concept is new to many parents.

A similar approach can be taken when considering regulatory requirements.

Try to shift the conversation from the personality of the individual teacher to specific requirements for educational process. Do not discuss the actions of individual teachers with parents; this will not be helpful. Consider only the requirements for students as the teacher implements them.

Do not allow discussion at this meeting of the actions of individual students, their attitude to learning. This is the topic of another parent meeting. At this meeting, you should acquaint parents with the requirements that the state imposes on the student, and nothing more.

COLLECTION OF PARENT MEETINGS

“How pleasant it is to meet…»

(to help the class teacher)

Zharkenova G.K., primary school teacherBestyubinskaya Secondary School No. 2, Stepnogorsk

Dear Colleagues!

If this brochure has caught your attention, chances are you work in a school where parent-teacher conferences are held from time to time.

I hope that this brochure may be of interest to a wide range of classroom teachers, regardless of whether they work in a public or private school, in primary or secondary schools.

A parent meeting at a school is a short-term meeting of parents with teachers, and in some cases with the school administration, during which organizational problems are resolved, parents receive information about the educational process, the progress and behavior of children, as well as the opportunity to communicate with each other. Usually the meeting is held several times during school year.

Conventionally, parent meetings can be divided into organizational, where current problems of school life, organization of classes and extracurricular activities are discussed, and thematic, which discusses issues that are relevant to parents. Organizational meetings are usually held at the beginning and end of the school year, and thematic meetings can be held throughout the year, either in accordance with a pre-drawn plan or in case of any pressing problem.

Each of us has our own idea of ​​a parent meeting: some have fresh memories of how school years they waited for their parents to return from the meeting with an anxious thought: “What will they tell about me?”, “In what mood will mom return?”

The parent meeting is special shape work that significantly expands the range of its capabilities.

This collection contains parent meetings of a non-standard form; meetings were also developed using the following forms of work: group form, critical thinking, ICT. Parents at these meetings work with great pleasure and open up in communication with each other. This collection also contains questionnaires for parents and useful tips.

Sample work plan for the parent committee

Sokolova N.V.

Class: 1st class

Form of presentation: Talk show "There is an opinion" Subject:

"Public Administration"

Task: Listen to the opinions of both parents and the administration about State and public management at school, how parents and the school administration should work.

Progress of the meeting

introduction

And the first question, in your opinion: Who should play a primary role in decision-making at school? Which formula is correct?

Parents dictate terms to school administration

The school administration dictates conditions to parents

Parents and school administration are partners

So, most parents believe that the third formula is correct. Then a reasonable question arises: Who is a PARTNER, in your opinion? To do this, you need to select an association for each letter of the word “partner” that begins with the same letter

(parents' opinions are being clarified)

- The teachers' opinion is as follows:

P - assistant

A - active

R - versatile

T - hardworking

N - reliable

E - like-minded person

R - reasonable

It is very good that for the most part the opinions of teachers and parents are similar.

However, how to organize a partnership between school and parents? Through:

Governing councils

Boards of Trustees

Parent committees

Of course, the most acceptable and working option is parent committees. There are two main opinions about the parent committee:

It seems to me that the parent committee is complete nonsense. What is it for? There's no point in it. The Parents' Committee exists only on paper, formally. I don't understand why it is needed at all.

I believe that a parent committee is needed. These are the first assistants to teachers in organizing any events, for example the same gifts for New Year. The parent committee can always control kindergarten. He has such powers.

What, in your opinion, are the functions of the parent committee?

Helps ensure optimal conditions for organizing the educational process (provides assistance in purchasing technical teaching aids, preparing visual aids methodological manuals etc.),

Conducts explanatory and advisory work among parents (legal representatives) of pupils about their rights and responsibilities.

Provides assistance in conducting mass educational events with children.

Participates in preparations for the new school year.

Together with the management, he controls the organization of high-quality nutrition for children, medical care, and the organization of dietary meals for individual students (for medical reasons).

Assists management in organizing and conducting general parent meetings.

Considers appeals addressed to himself, as well as appeals on issues within the competence of the Parent Committee, on behalf of the head.

If the functions are so diverse, then what are the reasons for the low effectiveness of parent committees? (parents' opinions are recorded)

Now I suggest you work in groups on the following problem: How to make the work of parent committees more effective? (work in groups)

Each group presents its findings. To summarize:

Administration + parents = partners = children's well-being

Thank you all for your work. Let's actively use our current developments to optimize the work of parent committees.

Sokolova N.V.

Form: round table

Topic: Family relationships as the basis of mutual understanding

Discuss with parents the problem of relationships in the family as the basis for mutual understanding; to form among parents a culture of understanding the problem and ways to overcome it; give recommendations; develop the skills of finding a way out in difficult situations.

Task: Listen to the opinions of both parents and the administration about State and public management at school, how parents and the school administration should work.

Progress of the meeting

– Hello dear fathers, mothers! Today we have gathered at a round table to talk about something very important. Family is a landing place for the elders, a launching pad for the younger ones, and a beacon of relationships for everyone. Our children are growing up, becoming smarter, and you and I would like there to be fewer problems in communication and interaction with them, but this is not happening. Why? Why, when meeting with friends, work colleagues, class parents, teachers, do we experience anxiety and worry, worry and fear for our children? Today we will try together to find the cause and solution to this problem. Now I want to read a Chinese parable to you, and you listen carefully.

Working with the Chinese parable “Good Family”

Once upon a time there was a family in the world, It was not simple. There were more than 100 people in this family. And she occupied the whole village. This is how the whole family and the whole village lived. You will say: so what, you never know there are many big families in the world, but

the fact is that the family was special: peace and harmony reigned in that family and, therefore, in the village. No quarrels, no swearing, no fights, no strife. Rumors about this family reached the very ruler of this country. And he decided to check whether people were telling the truth. He arrived in the village, and his soul rejoiced: all around was purity, beauty, prosperity and peace. Good for children, calm for old people. The lord was surprised. I decided to find out how the people of the village achieved such harmony. Came to the head of the family; Tell me, how do you achieve such harmony and peace in the family. He took a sheet of paper and began to write something. He wrote for a long time, apparently he was not good at reading and writing.

Discussion with parents of the parable

– What can you say about this parable? (Parents express their opinions).

– What kind of relationships should there be in a family?

- What do I need to do? What conditions should be created?

Parental workshop-game “Basket of Feelings”

– Dear parents, I have a “Basket of Feelings” in my hand, let’s write and name the feelings that bother us when discussing this topic. Parents name the feelings that overwhelm them, which they experience painfully.

An important condition for normal relationships in the family between parents and children is the mutual awareness of parents and children, in this case a good attitude towards learning will be formed. Mutual awareness of parents and children makes it possible to come to mutual understanding and respect for each other’s opinions.

In joint activities, not only parents discover the character of their children, but also children get to know the complex world of adults, their way of thinking and experiencing, and get to know their parents better. Parents can ask more from their children, giving them their time, feelings, providing them with a decent life.

If the atmosphere in the family is friendly and sensitive,

then a child raised on the positive examples of his parents in an atmosphere of mutual love, care and help will grow up to be just as sensitive and responsive.

Parents who are afraid of overloading their children at school and relieve them of household responsibilities are making a big mistake, because... in this case, the child may become selfish and neglect work altogether.

In order to correctly assess the motives of your children’s behavior, you need to understand them, know the direction of their personalities, interests, level of their knowledge and skills. If the family does not have such information about the children, then mutual difficulties in communication will appear.

It is very useful to discuss family and social problems with children, listen to their opinions, respect, correct and guide them in the right direction,

forming a sense of responsibility, self-respect of the individual, and, if necessary, admitting one’s mistakes.

Weak mutual interest between parents and children creates a negative attitude towards each other on both sides; children generally become disillusioned with communication and transfer their attitude towards their parents to the whole world of adults. Parents, in turn, also experience bitter disappointment in their children, resentment and annoyance, do not believe in them, do not respect them.

The relationship between parents and children, the specifics of their communication with each other, during which these relationships manifest themselves, influence the formation of the children’s personality. Parents who satisfy only the needs of their children and do not have spiritual contact with them, as a rule, have problems in raising and communicating with their children.

Questioning

– Now I want to conduct a survey with you that will help you understand what kind of relationships you have in your family.

Questionnaire

Do you think that your family has mutual understanding with children?

Do your children talk to you heart to heart, do they consult you on personal matters?

Are children interested in your work?

Do you know your children's friends?

Do your children participate in household chores with you?

Do you have common activities and hobbies?

Are children involved in preparing for the holidays?

Do children prefer that you be with them during the holidays?

Do you go to exhibitions, concerts, theaters with your children?

Do you discuss TV shows with your children?

Do you discuss books you have read with your children?

Do you have common activities or hobbies?

Do you participate in excursions, hikes, walks?

Do you prefer to spend your free time with your children?

Processing the results:

For each positive answer, 2 points are given;

For the answer “sometimes” - 1 point;

For a negative answer - 0 points.

20 points– You have a good relationship with your children.

10 – 19 points– the relationship is satisfactory, but insufficient, one-sided. Look where your negative answers stand.

9 points and below– contact with children is not established.

Practical work with parents

– And now I want to make a memo with you that will help establish and maintain conflict-free discipline and mutual understanding in the family.

Parent training

Give examples of situations from your life, from the life of your family, or from what you have observed.

situations related to family relationships.

There are pieces of paper in front of you. Write down on them expressions that are prohibited in communicating with a child in your family, as well as recommended and desirable expressions.

When communicating with children, you should not use expressions such as:

· I told you a thousand times that... · How many times must I repeat... · What are you thinking... · Is it really difficult for you to remember that... · You become… · You are the same as... · Leave me alone, I have no time... · Why is Lena (Nastya, Vasya, etc.) like this, and you are not...

When communicating with children, it is advisable to use the following expressions:

· You are my smartest (handsome, etc.). · It's so good that I have you. · You're doing great for me. · I love you very much. · How well you did it, teach me.

· Thank you, I am very grateful to you.

· If it weren't for you, I would never have gotten through this.

Try to use the listed expressions as often as possible.

Recommendations for parents: 1) Accept your child unconditionally. 2) Actively listen to his experiences and opinions. 3) Communicate with him as often as possible, study, read, play, write letters and notes to each other. 4) Do not interfere with his activities that he can handle.

5) Help when asked. 6) Support and celebrate his successes. 7) Talk about your problems, share your feelings. 8) Resolve conflicts peacefully. 9) Use phrases that evoke positive emotions in communication. 10) Hug and kiss each other at least four times a day.

– The most important words to say to your child: “I love you, we are close, we are together and we will overcome everything. This concludes our parent meeting.

Sokolova N.V.

I think you got a lot of useful information for yourself. Goodbye, and see you again.

Form of presentation: Talk show "There is an opinion" Form:

"Learning to be tolerant"

Goal: to identify the problem of tolerant attitude towards each other

give the concept of tolerance,

identify the traits of a tolerant and intolerant personality,

discuss examples of conflict situations in families and ways to prevent them.

Progress of the meeting:

Opening speech by the class teacher about tolerance.

There are no uninteresting people in the world.

Their destinies are like the stories of the planets.

Each one has everything special, its own,

And there are no planets similar to it.

And if someone lived unnoticed,

And with this invisibility I was friends,

He was interesting among people

The most uninteresting thing.

Everyone has their own secret personal world.

There is the best moment in this world.

There is the most terrible hour in this world,

But all this is unknown to us.

And if a person dies,

His first snow dies with him,

And the first kiss; and the first fight...

He takes all this with him.

Yes, books and bridges remain,

Machines and artists' canvases,

Yes, a lot is destined to remain,

But something still goes away!

This is the law of the ruthless game:

It is not people who die, but worlds.

We remember people, sinful and earthly,

What do we really know about them?

What do we know about brothers, about friends,

What do we know about our only one?

And we are talking about our own father,

Knowing everything, we know nothing.

People are leaving. They cannot be returned.

Their secret worlds cannot be revived.

And every time I want again Scream from this irrevocability.

(E. Yevtushenko)

What a poignant poem! The poet talks about the intrinsic value of each person’s personality and how often we lack attention and understanding from others. We lack tolerance and respect for each other. Now this concept is called “tolerance”.

What does this concept mean?

In preparation for the parent-teacher meeting, I selected the definition of tolerance from various sources.

Tolerance-

This is a person’s value attitude towards people, expressed in recognition, acceptance and understanding of representatives of other cultures.

This is a positive attitude towards his otherness.

– tolerance for other people’s opinions, beliefs, behavior.

The term "tolerance" in different languages sounds different:

tolerancia (Spanish) – the ability to recognize ideas or opinions different from one's own.

tolerance (French) – an attitude in which it is accepted that others may think or act differently than oneself

tolerance (English) – willingness to be tolerant, condescension.

kuan rong (Chinese) – allow, accept, be generous towards others.

tasamul’ (Arabic) – forgiveness, forbearance, gentleness, mercy, compassion, benevolence, patience, goodwill towards others.

Tolerance (Russian)– the ability to endure something or someone, to be self-possessed, resilient, persistent, to be able to put up with the existence of something or someone, to take into account the opinions of others, to be forgiving.

The definition of tolerance given in the “Declaration of Principles of Tolerance” (signed on November 16, 1995 in Paris by 185 member states of UNESCO, including Russia):

Tolerance means “respect, acceptance and proper understanding of the rich diversity of our world’s cultures, our forms of self-expression and ways of expressing human individuality. It is promoted by knowledge, openness, communication and freedom of thought, conscience and belief. Tolerance is freedom in diversity. This is not only a moral duty,

but also a political and legal need. Tolerance is a virtue that makes peace possible and helps replace the culture of war with a culture of peace.”

The third millennium is gaining momentum. Progress moves inexorably forward. Technology has come to serve man. It would seem that life should become more measured and calmer. But more and more often we hear the words: refugee, victim of violence...

In today's society there is an active growth of extremism, aggressiveness, and expansion of conflict zones. These social phenomena particularly affect young people, who, due to age characteristics characterized by maximalism, the desire for simple and quick solutions to complex social problems.

Recently, among adolescents and young people there has been a catastrophic increase in all kinds of antisocial behavior. Juvenile crime continues to increase. The number of antisocial radical youth organizations is growing, involving inexperienced youth in extremist groups.

The main task of society is to educate the younger generation in the spirit of tolerance.

Summarizing the above, we can conclude:

tolerance for other people's opinions, forgiveness, respect for rights,

beliefs, behavior of others

compassion - TOLERANCE - cooperation,

spirit of partnership accepting the other as he is

mercy respect for human dignity

Every person does different things in life. In some situations he does the right thing and shows his good qualities, but sometimes it happens the other way around...

There are two ways of personality development: tolerant and intolerant.

2) Parents work in groups.

Parents are divided into two groups. Task for groups:

the first group will describe the main features inherent in a tolerant personality, the second - the features inherent in an intolerant personality.

Conclusion: The tolerant path is the path of a person who knows himself well, feels comfortable in the environment, understands other people and is always ready to help, a person with a friendly attitude towards other cultures, views, and traditions.

The intolerant path is characterized by a person’s idea of ​​his own exclusivity, a low level of education, a feeling of discomfort in existing in the reality around him, a desire for power, and non-acceptance of opposing views, traditions and customs.

(Early age)

Parent meeting form- conversation, discussion.

Target:

1. Compile as complete a picture as possible of the individual characteristics of each child.

2. Getting parents to know each other and teachers preschool.

3. Creating an emotionally positive attitude towards working together, removing barriers to communication and moving to open, trusting relationships.

Motivation:

Announcement-invitation.

“Education is a job that certainly

should be fun."

A.S. Makarenko

Dear parents!

We want the time your child spends in our preschool to be joyful and happy!

We invite you.../.../... to a meeting with teachers and each other, where we will talk about each baby and its characteristics early age.

In a programme:

1. Opening speech by the manager.

2. A tour of the group with an accompanying speech by the teacher.

3. You will learn a lot of interesting things about the uniqueness of your children.

4. Get answers to all your questions.

Let's get acquainted! We will be very glad to see you!

Preparatory stage:

1. Questioning in the form of a letter about your child, using prompt questions to identify the characteristics of each child.

2. Questionnaire in the form of wishes, to obtain parents’ ideas about plans in the sense of cooperation with teachers of the group, kindergarten.

3. Preparation of an invitation announcement.

5. Print out instructions for parents on the topic: “Do we understand each other?”

6. Development of a plan for holding parent meetings.

7. Development of a draft decision of the parent meeting.

4. Homework for parents: making leaves for a tree with a photo of parents and child for a corner in the “me and family” group.

Means and methods: questionnaires, conversations, word games, bear toy, reminders, basket, paper, pens.

Meeting structure:

1. Opening speech by the manager. She says:

About the preschool institution,

Innovations at work,

Represents teachers

Thanks parents for their active assistance in preparing the group for the start of the school year,

Introduces the meeting program.

2. The teacher invites parents to familiarize themselves with the group.

The group is conditionally divided into three zones: the zone of cognitive development, quiet games, motor activity. Explains the meaning of each zone. Shows parents the “Me and My Family” corner and suggests placing leaves with photographs of the child and their parents on the tree.

3. The teacher offers parents the game: “Let’s go for a visit.”

Parents stand in a circle. Each participant in the game (the child’s mother or father), in turn, receiving a teddy bear toy, stands in the center of the circle, says his name (the rest of the parents clap it), says the name of his child and three definitions of the qualities that characterize his baby. The acquaintance continues in this way until all parents take part in the game.

The teacher thanks the parents for the pleasant acquaintance, for the “invitation to visit.”

4. Message from the teacher on the topic: “Features of early childhood.”

Target:

• introduce parents to the features of early childhood and the adaptation period.
• with the tasks of educational work,
• With individual characteristics pupils,
• teach parents to observe the child, study him, see successes and failures, try to help him develop at his own pace.

5. Discussion of the individuality of children in the “Question and Answer” style. Answers to questions from parents in order to identify the nature of interaction between parents and the child.

6. Presentation of the plan for working with the parents of the group.

• parent meetings,
• consultations,
• spending days open doors, in order to get acquainted with the activities of the teacher and the lives of children,
• workshops for parents to master methods and techniques for child development,
• Round table meetings
• joint holidays,
• surveys and surveys.

7. The teacher offers parents the game: “Wish.”

The teacher suggests writing on paper in 2-3 words your wish to the teacher to clarify their requests and expectations from the preschool employees, and to work together with them. Offers indicative prompt questions that parents have been introduced to in advance. Offers to voice some and add to cart.

8. The teacher invites parents to stand in a circle again to hand out reminders on the topic: “Do we understand each other?” and reward each other for participation with applause.

The game is played: “Applause.” The teacher says: “Today is a significant event, the first parent meeting in your life. Will this year for your child, and therefore for you, be happy, interesting, memorable - this largely depends on you, on your participation in the life of the group and kindergarten, on your interaction not only with teachers, but also with others parents of the group. During our first meeting, I want an acquaintance to take place, which later, I hope, will develop into warm friendly relations.”

9. The teacher sums up the parent meeting: “Together we will lay the foundation of friendly relations in the children’s and parent teams, as well as in the relationship between parents and teachers of the preschool institution. We need to make sure that the child in kindergarten has fun, good, interesting, so that he goes to kindergarten with joy, makes friends with the children and returns home happy, because loving adults are waiting for him at home.”

Prompt questions for a survey in the form of a letter about your child.

1. What is your child like? (confident, indecisive, mischievous, obedient).
2. Is he sociable or not? How does this manifest itself?
3. What is his favorite activity?
4. What is the child’s usual state and mood?
5. Does your child cry often?
6. How does he fall asleep? How does he sleep?
7. Does he get tired quickly? If yes, why do you think?
8. How does he react to failure?
9. How does he react to comments and punishments?
10. How does a child demonstrate independence (likes to do everything on his own, even if he doesn’t know how, doesn’t really strive for independence, prefers others to do everything)?
11. What are your relationships with peers (does he know how to play nearby, does he share toys)?
12. What else would you like to talk about?

Questions and hints for the game “Wish”

1. How would you like to see teachers treat you as a parent?
2. What can a teacher learn from parents?
3. What would you like to learn from teachers?
4. In what form could and would you like to participate in the work of the institution?
5. What did you like as a parent involved in the kindergarten?
6. What is needed to work effectively?
7. What do you think about the quality? preschool work to date?

Currently, the interest of teachers and heads of educational institutions in the problems of education has noticeably increased. In turn, strengthening the educational function of an educational institution necessitates improving the forms and methods of interaction between school and family, teachers and parents.

A parent meeting is the main form of joint work between parents, at which decisions are discussed and made on the most important issues of the life of the class community and the education of students at school and at home. Its main purpose is to harmonize, coordinate and unite the efforts of the school and family in creating conditions for the development of a spiritually rich, morally pure and physically healthy child’s personality. Parent meetings are also held in order to improve the pedagogical culture of parents, intensify their role in the life of the class, and increase responsibility for the upbringing of their children.

The teacher's classroom management is not only to organize the children's team, but also, having understood, to accept their parents. And the teacher’s task is not to teach parents, but to share with them the experience of raising children accumulated over the years, since by the nature of his activity the teacher reads more literature on education than parents, and his circle of communication with children is much wider and more multifaceted. We must do everything so that fathers and mothers trust the teacher and listen to his advice. Therefore, at parent meetings it is always necessary to create an atmosphere of trust. Parents should be introduced to the main directions of educational work so that they understand the importance of cooperation between family and school. This is a constant process that depends both on the demands of today's society and on the current situation in the classroom. Of course, you shouldn’t understand parent-teacher meetings as an educational program for parents; you shouldn’t lecture parents in a mentoring tone, who usually come to parent-teacher meetings after work tired and sometimes irritated.

All information material should be completed in 15–20 minutes. If parents want to learn more about something, break the material into several blocks, into several meetings, where you can not only tell them the material they are interested in, but also hold a discussion where everyone can express their point of view on this issue. Parents (sometimes they are our former students) remain children at heart. In essence, they are not against advice in the difficult matter of education. But their adult shell protests against the teaching. That's why we sometimes notice their sarcastic looks.

I do not recommend scolding children at a parent-teacher meeting. Try to talk about the successes and activities of the whole class, focusing on best sides character of each child. After all, for mom and dad, their child is the best. Information about student progress should be read out without preaching, but with empathy and understanding. Be sure to emphasize that tomorrow everything will be fine if we all try. After all, every parent, deep down, expects the best results from their child. And it’s very good when parents believe in this and love their child consciously. Nowadays, it is not easy to stop and think about the fact that children are our only wealth. But you have to try to look into the child’s soul, speak the same language as him, and he will definitely respond.

Parent meetings are needed:

• to quickly obtain a variety of information about children;
• as orientation, instructive meetings in case of changes in the life and activities of the class team, its mode of operation, etc.;
• to familiarize parents with the analysis of academic performance, attendance, and results medical examinations etc. But this should be analytical material (without naming specific names of parents and children);
• as advisory staff on the vacation program, on employment in the system additional education etc.;
• as emergency, emergency for acute conflict situation, in an extremely difficult case with any of the children. This is a collective council of adults deciding how to help a child in trouble or a mother in need of help;
• creative meetings when children show their parents their creative abilities, sports achivments, applied skills and so on.;
• meetings-lectures, psychological trainings, role-playing games on various topics and problems of education and training.

Such meetings can be held quite often (once a month), like a school for parents.

• Preparing the meeting:
• determine the topic, main issue and main objectives of the meeting;
• clarify the rules, think through the course of the meeting;
• send out invitations to parents, written in a polite manner, indicating the issues to be brought up for the meeting;
• think about where parents will undress, who will meet them at school and how;
• think over exhibition or information material;
• determine which specialists can be invited; think over your appearance

- this is an important detail: after all, every time a meeting is an event and a little bit of a holiday. Rough plan

holding a parent meeting. The start of the meeting must be strictly set time

. Parents get used to this requirement and try not to linger. Maximum duration 1–1.5 hours.

Introductory speech by the class teacher (5 min).

Analysis of parents' questionnaires;

is carried out to more clearly expose the problem of the meeting (5–7 min).

Speech on the topic: specialist or class teacher.

In conclusion, the teacher thanks the parents for their joint work. He asks those parents whose children have problems in learning and behavior to stay for a moment to find out the reasons and jointly decide to overcome them.

Rules of conduct for the class teacher at the parent meeting:

It is unacceptable to hold a parent meeting “on the class register.” Parents value the teacher not as an informant about the educational successes or failures of their children, but as a benevolent adviser, a person knowledgeable in teaching and, most importantly, in raising children.

Relieve tension, anxiety, anticipation of an unpleasant conversation.

Show that the school and family have the same problems, the same tasks, the same children.

Suggest how to find ways out of problematic situations. Look for these paths together.

Try to understand your parents, put yourself in their place.

Be able to talk with parents calmly, respectfully, kindly, and interestedly. It is important that parents of both good students and struggling children leave the meeting with faith in their child.

Tips for a successful parent meeting:

• you can arrange tables and chairs in a circle: everyone can see and hear each other well;
• prepare business cards with the names of the parents, especially if they do not know each other yet;
• call parents by their first and patronymic names, and not “Tanya’s mom,” “Vita’s dad,” etc.;
• use the form of conversation over a cup of tea, especially at the beginning of 1st grade;
• use group forms of work with parents, game elements;
• rely on the experience and opinions of authoritative parents;
• skillfully determine the day and hour of the parent meeting (when there are no important events, interesting TV shows, etc.);
• strictly define the rules of the meeting, protect parents’ time;
• it is necessary to end the meeting with a concrete decision.

Useful tips for parents.

Whether upbringing is going well or poorly - this can be reliably judged by whether your child can say: “I am happy!”

Don’t rely too much on your own example; alas, only bad examples are contagious. An example, of course, is important, but only if you respect your child.

Is your child seeking freedom from his parents? This means that something is wrong in the family; in a good family, children feel free, and it does not even occur to them to rebel against their parents.

We are not the masters of our children's lives; we cannot know their fate. We don’t fully know what is good and what is bad for their future, so we will be more careful in all decisions that may affect the child’s path.

When we talk to children, we are always sure that this is the truth, but we do not notice that sometimes we are embarrassed in the eyes of our children. Don't be afraid of children's doubts that you are right.

It is necessary to look after children; trouble can await neglected children.

Learn to control your intonation; unmistakable intonation can smooth out even a pedagogical mistake.

Tell your child the main words more often: “Don’t worry! Cheer up! Don't be afraid! No food!”

Whether or not to protect your child from bullies is one of the most difficult aspects of parenting, but don't leave him alone if you feel he's being bullied.

Sometimes children take all the school troubles too personally. Constantly teach them to distinguish between what is important and what is not so important.

If children are too captivated by TV: they don’t go for walks and have lost friends, then the TV should... break.

At least for 2-3 months, until the children come to their senses. What about adults? Raising children, like an art, requires sacrifice.

Do you remember how long ago you heard laughter in your house? The more often children laugh, the better their upbringing goes.

John Steinbeck said: “A boy becomes a man when the need for a man arises.” If you want to raise a man, create such a need in your home. You came home and saw that your eight-year-old son and his guests had literally destroyed the house. Let's understand that malice

it wasn’t: the children were just playing hide and seek, let’s take this opportunity to say: “Nothing, let’s clean up together.”

Tell your son or daughter: “People should feel at ease with you.” Don't be afraid to repeat it.

Never reproach a child with his age: “You’re already big!”, or with his gender: “And he’s also a boy!”, or with a piece of bread: “We feed you, we give you water.”

Try not to criticize anyone in front of your children. Today you will say bad things about your neighbor, and tomorrow your children will talk bad things about you.

The most difficult thing in parenting is to teach children to be humane. Loving children can be difficult. Praise your child, but praise people even more often in his presence.

Rousseau believed that a child should know: how good he is with others, so they will be good with him.

Parents are annoyed when their children do not obey them from the first word.

There are children whom you cannot win either with punishment or with kindness, but a generous attitude, in Eventually, saves them.

How? Do you still put your child in a corner? Nobody in Europe does this anymore. You are hopelessly behind pedagogical fashion.

When your child leaves the house, be sure to walk him to the door and tell him on the way: “Take your time, be careful.” This must be repeated as many times as the child leaves the house.

They say: “As the first day of the year passes, so will the whole year pass.” Praise your child from morning to evening!

Instill in your child a well-known formula mental health: “You are good, but not better than others.”

Tell your child: “Don’t be neat - they don’t like neat people in the class, don’t be dirty - they don’t like dirty people in the class.” Just be careful.”

Usually, when a child returns from school, he is asked: “Did they call you?” What mark did you get?”

Better ask him: “What was interesting today?”

• Memo to parents from their child:
• Don't spoil me, you're spoiling me. I know very well that it is not necessary to provide me with everything I request. I'm just testing you.
• Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer this approach. This allows me to determine my place.
• Don't rely on force in your relationship with me. This teaches me that only strength needs to be taken into account.
• Don't make promises you can't keep. It will weaken my faith in you.
• Don't make me feel younger than I really am. Otherwise I will become a “crybaby” and a “whiner”.
• Don't do for me and for me what I can do myself. I can continue to use you as a servant.
• Don't correct me in front of strangers. I pay much more attention to your comments if you tell me everything calmly, face to face.
• Don't try to discuss my behavior in the midst of a conflict. My hearing becomes dull at this time, and I have little desire to cooperate with you. It will be better if we talk about this later.
• Don't try to lecture me. You will be surprised to know how well I know what is good and what is bad.
• Don't make me feel like what I'm doing is a mortal sin. I have to learn to make mistakes without feeling like I'm no good.
• Don't forget that I love to experiment. This is my way of experiencing the world, so please bear with it.
• Don't protect me from the consequences of my mistakes. I learn from my own experience.
• Don't pay too much attention to my little ailments. I can learn to enjoy feeling bad if it brings me a lot of attention.
• Don't try to get rid of me when I ask honest questions. If you do not answer them, I will stop asking you questions altogether and will look for information on the side.
• Never even hint that you are perfect and infallible. This makes my attempts to equal you futile.
• Don't forget that I cannot develop successfully without your attention and encouragement.
• Treat me the same way you treat your friends. Then I will become your friend too.

And the most important thing, I love you so much! Please answer me the same...