Behavior for girls. Women's etiquette: from appearance to rules of conduct

19.01.2020 -

In the modern world, not knowing the rules of etiquette means going against society, exposing yourself not in the best way.

We present you a selection of the current rules that every self-respecting person and others should know:
1. Never come to visit without a call
If you are visited unannounced, you can afford to be in a dressing gown and curlers. One British lady said that when intruders appeared, she always put on shoes, a hat and took an umbrella. If a person is pleasant to her, she will exclaim: “Oh, how lucky, I just came!”. If unpleasant: "Oh, what a pity, I have to leave."

2. The umbrella never dries open - neither in the office nor at a party
It must be folded and placed in a special stand or hung.

3. The bag can not be placed on your knees or on your chair
A small elegant clutch bag can be put on the table, a bulky bag can be hung on the back of a chair or placed on the floor if there is no special high chair (these are often served in restaurants). The briefcase is placed on the floor.

4. Cellophane bags are only allowed upon return from the supermarket
As well as paper branded bags from boutiques. Carrying them with you later as a bag is redneck.

5. A man never wears women's bag
And he takes a woman's coat only to carry it to the locker room.

6. Home clothes are trousers and a sweater, comfortable but having a decent look.
Bathrobe and pajamas are designed to get to the bathroom in the morning, and from the bathroom to the bedroom in the evening.

7. From the moment the child settles in a separate room, get used to knocking when entering him
Then he will do the same before entering your bedroom.

8. A woman may keep her hat and gloves on indoors, but not her hat and mittens.

9. Total decorations according to the international protocol should not exceed 13 items
And this includes jewelry buttons. A ring is not worn over gloves, but a bracelet is allowed. The darker it is outside, the more expensive jewelry. Diamonds used to be considered an adornment for the evening and married ladies, but in recent times it became permissible to wear diamonds during the day. On a young girl, stud earrings with a diamond of about 0.25 carats are quite appropriate.

10. Rules for paying for an order in a restaurant
If you say the phrase "I invite you" - it means you pay. If a woman invites a business partner to a restaurant, she pays. Another wording: "Let's go to a restaurant" - in this case, everyone pays for himself, and only if the man himself offers to pay for the woman, she can agree.

11. The man is always the first to enter the elevator, but the one closest to the door gets out first.

12. In a car, the most prestigious place is considered to be behind the driver.
He is occupied by a woman, a man sits next to her, and when he gets out of the car, he holds the door and gives the lady a hand. If a man is driving, it is also preferable for a woman to take a seat behind him. However, wherever a woman is sitting, a man should open the door for her and help her out.
Recently, in business etiquette, men are increasingly violating this norm, using the motto of feminists: "There are no women and men in business."

13. Talking out loud about being on a diet is bad form.
Moreover, it is impossible under this pretext to refuse dishes offered by a hospitable hostess. Be sure to praise her culinary talents, while you can not eat anything. You should also deal with alcohol. Don't tell everyone why you can't drink. Ask for dry white wine and sip lightly.

14. Taboo topics for small talk: politics, religion, health, money
Inappropriate question: “God, what a dress! How much did you pay?" How to react? Smile sweetly: "This is a gift!". Move the conversation to another topic. If the other person insists, say gently, "I don't want to talk about it."

15. Every person who has reached the age of 12 is supposed to be addressed to "you"
It's disgusting to hear people say "you" to waiters or drivers. Even to those people with whom you are well acquainted, in the office it is better to turn to “you”, to “you” - only in private. The exception is if you are peers or close friends. How to react if the interlocutor stubbornly “pokes” you? First, ask again: “Excuse me, are you contacting me?”. Otherwise, a neutral shrug of the shoulders: “Sorry, but we didn’t switch to“ you ”.

16. Discussing those who are absent, that is, simply gossiping, is unacceptable
It is not permissible to speak badly about loved ones, in particular to discuss husbands, as is customary with us. If your husband is bad, why don't you divorce him? And in the same way, it is not permissible to speak with contempt, with a grimace about your native country. “In this country, all goons…” - in this case, you also belong to this category of people.

17. Having come to the cinema, theater, to a concert, you should only go to your seats facing the seated
The man goes first.

18. Nine things should be kept secret:
Age, wealth, a gap in the house, prayer, the composition of the medicine, a love affair, a gift, honor and dishonor.

Knowing and observing the basic rules of etiquette will help every woman or young girl feel confident in any society under any circumstances. The lady is always visible - she is refined, refined and well-mannered, it is pleasant to have a conversation with her, she is desirable at any party.

Everyone can instill good manners, the main thing is to know the fundamental points and try to observe them every day and in any situation.

Peculiarities

Very often, we associate the word "etiquette" with how, for example, to properly set the table, which glass to use for wine and which one for water, how to dress for a particular social event. But the concept is broader, it covers all spectrums of a woman's life.

Etiquette is also how to behave in public transport and how to organize communication in a work team. A young girl should demonstrate her manners and good manners in relations with a young man, him and her parents. This includes even friendly chatter with a girlfriend, who, it turns out, must also obey special rules.

To embark on the path of "turning into a lady", you first need to learn how to monitor your emotions. Nowadays, many girls are accustomed to violently express their overwhelming feelings. Restraint and modesty are the main distinctive features highlighting a true lady, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s the joy of meeting a friend or the indignation of an unfair incident.

Learning to hide your emotions is a very important step in the process of learning good manners. There is no need to come up with excuses for yourself that at that moment it was impossible to remain silent or outwardly remain indifferent to the situation - for sure the problem will soon be solved by itself, but restoring a damaged reputation is much more difficult.

Try to be more tolerant of the shortcomings of others, do not criticize anyone in public, do not interfere in other people's affairs, behave modestly and with dignity - these principles will pay for ignorance of the common rules of etiquette.

Behavior rules

There is a certain set of rules that will help to avoid embarrassing moments in life situations in which every girl gets every day.

When you meet someone you know on the street, be sure to greet them. Consider the degree of closeness of your relationship. You should not show excessive emotions too loudly and violently or try to call out to a friend across the street, it is enough to meet eyes and nod to each other.
Avoid snacking on the go outside. Firstly, there is a high probability of choking, and secondly, you can inadvertently stain a random passerby. This also applies to eating in shops or other in public places not intended for this.
During a telephone conversation, make sure that your voice is not too loud. If this is not possible, move away from the main crowd - your negotiations should not be in the public domain.
Do not sort things out in public if you do not want to receive the condemnation of others.

Don't get into fights with strangers. If you have made a remark, even unfair, it is better to apologize or remain silent. Remember that you are a real lady.
Try not to be late for meetings, come on time if you are invited to visit. Punctuality is elementary rule decency that every woman must observe. If, despite everything, you understand that you are not on time, be sure to call in advance and warn how long you will be late.
Be mindful of your posture and gestures while talking. Your movements should be restrained, smooth, feminine, should not attract attention and shock.
Makeup girl must match the situation. During the day and at work, it is better to choose neutral decorative cosmetics in natural tones, but an evening social event allows you to apply bright lipstick and glitter eyeshadow.

Our life is not limited to ordinary everyday life, when you just need to behave within the generally accepted norms of behavior. A young girl in the modern world tries to comprehend all spheres of life, attend all social events, make new acquaintances.

Increasingly, meetings of any format are held in a restaurant. To express yourself with better side, show your awareness and good upbringing, follow the basic rules that are easy to remember:

A trip to a restaurant begins with studying the menu and making an order. Do not be afraid to ask the waiter, for example, about the ingredients, the method of serving, the cooking time of the dish.
Familiarize yourself with the specifics of the institution. If you come to a Chinese restaurant, do not order European cuisine.
At the table, behave with restraint, always remember the posture (do not fall apart in a chair) and gestures (do not wave your fork in any case!), Do not speak loudly. Remember - you are not alone in the restaurant.
If the waiter brought your order earlier than the others, you should not immediately grab the fork and knife. In this case, you must wait until everyone has plates on the table.

Place a napkin on your lap just before eating. This way it will always be at hand and you will keep your clothes clean.
If something fell from the table (a device, a napkin), do not focus on it. Just call the waiter, he will bring you everything you need.
Hold the fork with the knife correctly, in the left and right hand, respectively. Try not to swap cutlery. If the garnish is crumbly, use a knife to fill the fork.
Work the spoon away from you if your meal includes an entree. This way you keep your clothes clean.
If you can’t chew a piece, then gently bring the napkin to your lips and discreetly remove it.

These general rules will definitely help “not to lose face”. Of course, depending on the company at the table, there are assumptions, but only by observing the main points, you can develop for yourself a habitual stereotype of behavior that will become natural.

One of the most important aspects of any woman's life is relationships with men. The beautiful half of the population always blames the fact that there are no real gentlemen left in nature, but the girls themselves are not distinguished by the presence of good manners.

Remember: by adhering to the principles of a real lady, you encourage the opposite sex to treat you appropriately.

There are several basic rules of etiquette in dealing with men:

Defiant behavior always repels others, especially men, at any stage in the development of relationships. Remember that a woman should always remain a mystery and understatement, so do not violently express your emotions - do not forget about restraint.
Do not sort things out and do not argue with your gentleman in public. Passionate kissing is also not worth it.
Don't be too intrusive. Even if the relationship is going through a “candy-bouquet” period, you should not often call or write messages to your partner. Only one call from a woman should fall on three or four calls from a man.
Too indifferent and arrogant girl should not be either. This will be perceived as disrespectful and will alienate a potential partner.
With pleasure, let a man take care of you, but do not wait and do not demand when, for example, they open the door for you or give you flowers.

In the traditional sense, etiquette between a man and a woman is supported by patriarchal principles, where all power and authority, as well as a demonstration of the superiority of the mind and wealth, belong to strong half. Time is changing, and the scales are gradually equalizing. For example, in modern society it is considered acceptable if the lady pays her half of the bill herself or goes first to get acquainted with the man who is interested in her.

Speech etiquette

Speaking fluently and politely is one of the most important qualities modern world. In the digital age, men and women are losing this important skill, conversation is impoverished, and it becomes increasingly difficult to maintain a conversation.

Knowing the basics of speech etiquette will help any girl present herself correctly in society, teach her to parry, even if the topic of conversation is unfamiliar.

They say: "They meet by clothes, but see off by the mind." In fact, for a woman it would be more correct like this: “They meet by clothes, and see off by how she behaves and speaks in society”. An educated person with a correct understanding of the culture of behavior always evokes approval.

Any communication always begins with a greeting:

There is a certain sequence that must be followed during the greeting: the younger ones are always the first to greet the elders in a respectful manner, the men greet the women, the one who is late - the one who is waiting for him, who entered the room - those who have already gathered in it, the walking one who is worth.
When a couple, a man and a woman, meet a lady standing alone, the woman who has an escort is the first to greet.
If during a walk a man greeted a man unfamiliar to a woman, the woman should also greet him.
If a girl is invited to a feasting event, then, having entered the room, she must first greet everyone at once, and after sitting down at the table, with neighbors on both sides.
A girl can greet a man with a nod of her head, and during a handshake she does not take off her glove, only if this is not a meeting with an elderly person. The handshake is a purely feminine initiative.

The words of greeting are familiar to everyone since childhood: “hello”, “good afternoon”, “ good morning or "good evening". Among your close friends and comrades, more free options are acceptable, for example, “hello”. Pronounce the words clearly and distinctly, do not crumple the endings.

The intonation should be friendly, on the face - a slight smile. Greet and address the person by name, those who are older - by name and patronymic.

The beginning of any relationship begins with the stage of acquaintance. Often such situations require that the girl be introduced to a stranger, or she herself needs to introduce her friends. The rules of etiquette in this case are simple:

A man must take the initiative himself and pass away to a girl.
Those who are younger in age or position are introduced to the elders first.
First they introduce a less familiar person, only then their friend (given that they are of the same age and position).
If at a given time a woman is alone, then she is the first to introduce herself to a couple or a group of people.
In the case when it is necessary to introduce two people of different sexes, you should first turn to the woman and tell her the name of the man.
At a social event, it is desirable for a woman to be introduced to one or another guest by the hosts or mutual acquaintances.
If a seated man is introduced to someone, he must stand up. It is permissible for a woman not to get up unless she is introduced to a lady who is much older than she is.
After the introduction, you should greet a new acquaintance and, preferably, shake hands. A woman can start a short, distant conversation.

Conducting a conversation in a secular society is also regulated by the rules of etiquette:

Watch your intonation. Speech should not be fast, but not drawn out either. Speak calmly, not loudly. Your tone should be cheerful and friendly.
Do not use incorrect phrases and "slang" expressions.
Do not start conversations on inappropriate topics - politics, religion.
Never delve into a topic. In society, they always talk about everything a little bit, but in general - about nothing.
Do not interrupt the interlocutor, but at the same time show interest and participation in the story.
If you want to address a person who is standing far away from you, just go to him. Shouting loudly and talking through other people is unacceptable.
Avoid allusions, dubious jokes in your speech - not everyone can understand specific humor or hidden subtext.

Try to keep the conversation on a positive wave - do not scold or condemn anyone. It is better to refrain from any comments at all, all the more you should not argue and defend your point of view at all costs.

It is important for every girl to know how to behave correctly in different situations and don't lose your dignity. Modern etiquette for girls is filled with different rules. We will try to highlight the main 15 norms of behavior for each of you.

Away behavior

1.Accept or decline the invitation should be in advance. So say the rules of etiquette for girls and guys.

2. You can come with someone only after discussing it with the hostess.

3. Also, the etiquette of a modern girl says that it is indecent to come to visit in advance. It is normal to be a few minutes late.

4. Do not drink alcohol in excess. It is ugly for both the girl and the guy.

5. Also, the basic rules of etiquette for girls involve a call of gratitude to the hostess the next day after the reception.

Behavior in restaurants and cafes

1. If you visit a restaurant together, the guy takes the menu first, then passes it to the girl. The order is reported by the guy for two. Such is the etiquette of a girl with a guy in such establishments.

2. Also, the etiquette for girls at the table prohibits negotiations on a mobile phone in the presence of other guests.

3. Shouting, coughing and other signs are unacceptable to attract the attention of the waiter.

4. Talking and laughing loudly is also unacceptable.

5. Regarding cutlery, the rules of etiquette for girls at the table are as follows: at the end of the meal, the knife and fork are placed parallel to each other, during the break - crosswise.

1. Regarding the wardrobe, clothing etiquette for girls says that for an outfit, first of all, its relevance is important, and only then convenience and beauty.

2. Never read someone else's correspondence and personal notes.

3. Do not discuss your sex life in front of strangers.

4. Turn off mobile phone in public places.

5. It is important that your hair, manicure and shoes are always in perfect condition.

Now it is extremely important for each of us to know how a girl should behave, etiquette and its rules. It is necessary in all situations to behave with dignity and good manners. Having good manners is far from being a luxury, but a necessity for every lady.

And the girls who want to be treated like this, let them think! Maybe they don't deserve to be treated like this.
Walking with my girlfriend, I noticed that many men do not follow the rules of etiquette in relation to women at all. Well, not really, but some fairly well-known rules are missed. In the name of male literacy and respect for the fair sex, this post!

1. Along the street, a man should walk to the left of the lady. On the right, only military personnel may walk, who must be ready to salute.

2. It is necessary to support the woman by the elbow if she stumbled or slipped. But in a normal situation, the decision to take a man by the arm or not is made by the lady.

3. In the presence of a woman, a man does not smoke without her permission.

4. At the entrance and exit to the room, the gentleman opens the door in front of the lady, and he goes behind her.

5. Rising or descending the stairs, a man secures his companion by walking one or two steps behind.

6. The man enters the elevator first, and at the exit from it, the lady should be skipped forward.

7. A man gets out of the car first, he bypasses vehicle and opens the door on the passenger side, while helping the woman to get out. Provided that the man drives the car himself, he must open the door and support the woman by the elbow when she sits in the front seat. If the man and woman are both taxi passengers, they are supposed to ride in the back seat. The lady is the first to sit in the salon, the man sits next to him.

8. Entering the room, a man should help the woman take off her outer clothing, leaving the room, it is worth giving her clothes.

9. It is also customary in society not to sit down if the ladies are standing (this also applies public transport).

10. According to etiquette, a man should not be late for a meeting with a lady. On the contrary, the gentleman should come a few minutes earlier, because his delay can embarrass the lady and put her in an awkward position. In unforeseen cases, it is necessary to warn and apologize for being late.

11. Any woman of any age should be helped to carry large items and massive bags. They do not include a handbag, a light fur coat or a coat, except in those cases when, for health reasons, she cannot carry them herself.

Etiquette is a set of rules of good manners. There are a lot of them. But those who make a career, want to succeed, and who have to deal with elites, need to study them especially carefully.

Etiquette helps people behave correctly in any situation and society, without causing other people any inconvenience. Sophisticated manners, correct speech, stylish look- all this plays an important role.

There are several types of etiquette:

the ability to present oneself: a properly selected wardrobe, well-groomed appearance, elegant gestures, posture, posture;
speech form: manners and culture of speech and communication;
table etiquette: table manners, knowledge of serving rules, the ability to eat;
behavior in any public place;
business etiquette: negotiations and relationships with superiors and colleagues.

Good manners for women

First of all, a girl or woman should look good. She should have a neat and well-groomed appearance, clean clothes and shoes, a properly selected bag and accessories.

Of the basic rules, you need to highlight the following:

Spirits must be used wisely. A strong smell of deodorant or even elite perfume is considered bad manners.
In choosing jewelry and accessories, it is better to show moderation. A large number of jewelry or jewelry looks too catchy.
You can preen only at home or in a specially designated room for this, but in no case in public places. In society, you can only quickly look at your reflection in a small mirror and tint your lips.
A lap bag is not the best the best choice. So they sit at the station. It is better to put a purse or a small handbag on the table.https://youtu.be/I7FirFX5UNw

A woman should always behave like a real lady, avoiding offensive remarks, inappropriate flirting and other liberties.

List of etiquette rules for men

A man should also look elegant, be neatly combed and adhere to the following rules:

Skip the companion forward when entering the room.
Don't put your elbows on the table.
Sitting down at a table, first move the chair to the lady, and then to yourself.
Do not leave your companion alone.
Do not smoke in front of a girl without her permission.
In the room, in the presence of a girl, take off your hat.
When exiting the bus or car, give the lady a hand.

A gentleman must not carry a women's bag, and he can only bring women's outerwear to the dressing room. On the street, a man should walk to the left of his companion.

Without the consent of the girl, the gentleman has no right to take her hand or arm.

Etiquette for children

The upbringing of children should be based on etiquette, because they will have to live in society. It is difficult for children to learn all the rules, but although the most important of them they should know:

Behavior at the table:

sit at the table only by invitation;
eat with your mouth closed without speaking;
get up from the table only with the permission of an adult.

Speech etiquette:

always say hello and goodbye;
express gratitude and respect;
do not interfere in the conversation of older people, do not interrupt them.

Guest etiquette:

invite guests in advance;
do not go to people without an invitation;
visit only in a good mood;
stay away for no more than 2 - 3 hours, so as not to annoy people.

Having mastered these simple rules from childhood, the child will adhere to them in the future.

conversational etiquette

The culture of communication among many young people is considered an outdated concept, and completely in vain. After all, it is speech etiquette helps to achieve authority and win the trust of others. The list of these rules is quite long:

When entering a room, you should always say hello first. This rule applies to everyone, regardless of age and status - schoolchildren, pensioners, directors or ordinary employees.
At a meeting, the first person to greet is a man - a woman, a junior - a senior, a latecomer - a waiting one, an employee of a junior rank - the boss.
When greeting older people by position or age, be sure to stand up or rise. Giving a hand while sitting is a sign of bad taste.
A man should always introduce himself to a woman first. You cannot leave people to themselves and oblige them to give their names themselves.
After meeting, it is desirable to shake hands. It is impolite to give only the tips of your fingers.
Interrupting an interlocutor is very bad. But it is possible and necessary to express your interest in the subject of conversation.
The rules of small talk allow you to talk about anything you like, but without delving into details and avoiding controversy.
It is necessary to monitor the pace and timbre of your voice: it should be natural, but not tense.https://youtu.be/UtlwEY-CITE

Polite verbal forms and a friendly attitude towards the interlocutor help to create a favorable impression of yourself.

Telephone rules

You also need to know how to talk on the phone. Without seeing the interlocutor, you can say a lot of offensive and unnecessary things to him. But private telephone conversations are one thing, and occupational calls are quite another.

Main rules:

Do not pick up the phone after the first call, only after the second or third. In the seconds saved, you need to mentally prepare for telephone conversation putting aside your business. In addition, if a company representative picks up the phone immediately after the first call, the client gets the impression that the employees have nothing to do and they just get bored at the place of work. But the main thing here is not to overdo it. If you pick up the phone later, the client may become nervous and lose patience.
First, be sure to introduce yourself, name your company, ask about the name of the interlocutor and whether he has time for a short conversation. After that, it is desirable to immediately move on to the main question.
It is necessary to monitor the intonation and speed of speech. The voice should be clear, low, even and confident. It would be nice to match the pace of the person on the other end of the line.
Do not forget about polite phrases: “thank you”, “be kind”, “if you don’t mind”.
It is prohibited to use the speakerphone unnecessarily. The person on the other end of the line immediately picks up the difference in sound and begins to worry that someone is eavesdropping on him. It may also be evidence that a company representative is engaged in outsiders (more important things) and part-time answers calls.
When talking on the phone, you can not smoke, drink and eat (chew gum). Although this is not visible, but all this is reflected in the speech and looks terrifying.
After using the hold function, be sure to thank the person for waiting. It is not worth keeping the interlocutor on hold for longer than a minute, it is better to say that after clarifying the necessary information, they will call him back.
At the end, be sure to say goodbye and thank the interlocutor for taking the time to talk. There is no need to apologize for wasting time.

Aggressive and demanding customers should be dealt with calmly, but decisively and confidently.

Good manners and business etiquette

If all employees adhere to business etiquette, an enterprise or firm creates favorable atmosphere where there is no room for conflict.

You should never be late for meetings and business negotiations.
Company secrets and data confidentiality must be kept at all times.
During a business conversation, you should not stare at the face of the interlocutor or lean over him. Also, when communicating, tilting the head to the side is not allowed.
A business card should be served only with the right hand (even for left-handed people). The recipient of the business card should not hide it in the back pocket of his trousers or wrinkle it with his fingers.
Do not violate the boundaries of personal space and get too close to a person. The latter feels at the same time considerable discomfort. The minimum distance between interlocutors corresponds to the size of an outstretched arm. A person can only let relatives closer to him.
A guest arriving on business must be seated at right hand from the owner.
You need to watch your speech. A particularly unfavorable impression is produced by slang words, errors in stress and the use of words in the wrong meaning.
For a compliment, you should always thank briefly and simply, without showing false modesty.
You always need to follow the position of the body and gestures. It is unacceptable to talk with legs wide apart, with hands thrust into pockets, stooping and gesticulating strongly.

Business etiquette is the rules without which it will not be possible to achieve success in business. They always try to adhere to them, even if instability reigns around both in politics and in the economy.

How to behave at the table

At the table, you also need to behave culturally. This applies to both family holidays and dinner parties in a restaurant, cafe or at a party.

Good manners at the table:

Never, ever, chew food with open mouth. It looks terrible. Also, do not talk and laugh with the remnants of food in your mouth. This is not only ugly - you can choke on it.
Before you put a side dish, salad or appetizer from a common dish on your own plate, you must first offer them to those sitting next to you. They put food on themselves last.
In no case should you put your phone or smartphone on the table near you. This shows a person in a negative light: he is not interested in what is happening, he is constantly distracted by incoming messages and calls.

The table must be properly set, and all appliances laid out in their places.

Good House Rules

Many people believe that at home you can behave freely and cheekily. But this is wrong, because parents and children, grandparents, sisters and brothers should show special courtesy and goodwill towards each other. To family relationships were strong and sincere, you need to rejoice at the successes of loved ones, give thanks, support in all endeavors, more often say kind words and find compromises.

Bright and colorful things are very striking. In a business style, they are not appropriate, they can only be worn in an informal setting.
Clothing should never be vulgar, especially for women. A short miniskirt combined with a deep neckline is the top of disgrace. Only one of the indicated elements can be present in the image.
All attire must be elegant. This means that all materials, styles and colors must be chosen with taste.
You need to dress in such a way as to emphasize the dignity of your figure and hide the flaws.

There are a lot of subtleties and nuances. If possible, you need to consult with an experienced stylist or tailor who will tell you which things fit well, which ones do not, what clothes are appropriate in a given situation.

A truly educated person behaves impeccably everywhere: both in society and at home. Since we live in a society, everyone should learn this.